So you’re interested in expanding your basic collection of vibrators and dildos to include BDSM sex toys? You won’t be alone – a 2015 poll by a Marie Claire writer showed that approximately 80% of respondents had tried at least some form of BDSM toy or accessory in the bedroom with consenting partners.
Keep in mind that we live in a post 50 Shades era, one in which everyone knows that romance and kink play can come hand in hand. Whether you’re getting pulled in by curiosity or a desire to push the boundaries of pleasure and pain, we happily welcome you to the world of BDSM sex toys.
Are Tools Necessary For BDSM?
BDSM is not all about the tools, but the tools do play a large part in it. The letters in the acronym stand for Bondage, Discipline, Sadism and Masochism. On a physical level, it’s about tying someone up and delivering pain/pleasure. On a deeper, psychological level, it’s about deciding that one person will get to control, while the other will be controlled.
BDSM sex toys are one of the easiest ways to help couples get in the mood for the juicy power dynamics involved in BDSM. There are three main categories of toys you can explore including restraint toys, impact toys, and power BDSM toys such as intense vibrators and dildos. Find suggestions here from all three of these categories so you can find the perfect fit for you and your partner!
Tie ‘Em Up: Restraint Tools
B is for bondage. When one partner’s range of movement is limited with s BDSM restraint sex toy, sensations become heightened and far less predictable. This can really help set up a lusty mood in the bedroom. Look for the following toys if you’d like to bind or be bound!
1. Bondage Tape or Rope
Some of the most versatile, affordable and effective types of BDSM restraints are bondage tape and rope. Beginners can use them for basic ties such as wrist restraint, while more advanced users can explore the art of Shibari bondage.
2. Handcuffs, Shackles, and Collars
Make your partner feel like a prisoner or a trapped animal by securing neck, wrists and/or feet using handcuffs, shackles and collars. These BDSM sex toys are often beautifully made of leather, metal, or other materials that are built to last. Using them again and again can enhance the role play dynamic.
3. Spreader Bars
Despite being simple in their design, spreader bars are a very effective toy for BDSM. By keeping the legs apart, they allow complete access to the nether regions, whether the recipient likes it or not.
4. Blindfolds
Physical movement isn’t the only thing that can be restrained. When one partner’s sense of sight is temporarily taken away, other senses get heightened – including touch. Try putting on a blindfold and engaging in touch, tickling, oral sex, and maybe even a dripping hot massage candle.
Hit ‘Em Where It Hurts (So Good): Impact Sex Toys
Impact BDSM sex toys help show your partner who the boss is. While it’s entirely possible to deliver BDSM pleasure and pain with a vibrator or dildo, pain sensations delivered to the rest of the body can be a welcome change and a huge turn-on. As with all BDSM toys, make sure your partner is willing and interested in pain play before using these toys!
1. Whips, Paddles, and Canes
Whips, paddles, and canes are the three main categories of BDSM sex toys used to deliver pain. Which one you choose will depend on what kind of pain you’re looking for: whips are powerful and give a satisfying snap; paddles affect a larger area, perfect for spankings; canes deliver localized pain and offer a lot of control to the user.
2. Electrosex Toys
Electrosex toys come in many shapes and forms including wands, whips, butt plugs, and a heck of a lot more. Explore these if the idea of light or intense electric shock is tantalizing to you.
Give ‘Em The Big Finish: Power Sex Toys
Most BDSM sex toys have nothing to do with penetration or genital play, but at the end of the day, orgasm plays a large part in the power dynamic. Imagine being tied up while your partner forces so many orgasms upon you that they start to hurt… But in the most amazing way.
1. Wand Vibrators
For those with a clitoris, wand vibrators are an extremely useful BDSM toy to have. Take an extremely powerful model such as the Hitachi Magic Wand, position it well, turn it up to one of the higher speed settings, and prepare to wake the neighbors.
2. Sex Machines
Intercourse is the traditional way to get thrust during BDSM play, but certain sex toys can deliver more intense, consistent thrust in a way that feels more dominating. We’re talking about sex machines; They can deliver orgasms again and again during sex, blurring the lines between pleasure and pain.
Our Thruster dildos are especially suitable for BDSM play as they are handheld, extremely fast (up to 140 thrusts per minute!) and rechargeable. We recommend The Frankie for orgasmic play, The Jackie for the most realistic play possible, and The Walter for all things anal. We also recommend plenty of lube when using these BDSM sex toys!
Shop Our Game-Changing Thruster
We’re proud of our Thrusters for being so versatile: they’re appropriate for those who love hardcore play but they’re also great for the more down-to-earth orgasm lovers out there. They work whether you’re playing solo or rolling in the hay with a partner. They’re also the most compact toys you’ll find at this intensity level on the market today.
View what we’ve got today and enjoy our tip-to-tail warranty, which will help protect your new toy against even the roughest of play!
